I'm watching the Steve Harvey show, which I love. He's great. And today the topic is divorce and finding new people, and he has a couple of women with him onstage talking about sex. They believe that a woman should wait 90 days to have sex with a man in order to have a better chance at keeping him in a relationship.
I just want to say that there are exceptions to every rule!
I met my husband online back at the end of 2007. We chatted for a few days and then didn't talk again for a few months. After we reconnected, we made a date for him to come up and meet me and possibly spend the weekend with me.
Well, we had sex the first night.
And guess what? It didn't ruin the relationship! We got married!
I think every situation is different. I think that all too often, we have sex, and then one person gets more attached than the other. But if you get along really well and you're comfortable in your skin and you aren't too needy or too distant after that first round of erotic fun, then I think having sex on the first date is A-OK.
Sure, holding onto the goods can keep a man's interest, but I'm telling you from experience that if that is all he wants, it doesn't matter if you wait 9 hours or 90 days - once he gets it, he's gone. Let me repeat: if a man is only interested in you for sex, he will leave even if he has to wait for that sex.
Most men love sex. But not all men are looking for a relationship. Some are just looking for friends with benefits. Some are looking for sexy, secret affairs. Some are looking for lasting love and commitment. It all depends on the person and their goals and if you two are a good match.
That's my two cents on the matter. Thoughts?